The importance of self-care when you’re a caregiver


Two-years ago my life changed completely when I became a full-time caregiver to my sister. As a result, I stopped blogging. I wasn’t sure how to talk about my life when it meant talking about my sister’s, too. But I’m learning how to walk that line. And I’m finally starting to write about where I’ve been all this time and what I’ve been doing. For everyone who has stuck around even when it’s been quiet on the blog, thank you.  

Thanksgiving Day marked the two-year anniversary of when I became a full time live-in caregiver. On that chilly November morning two years ago, while I watched the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade on TV with my husband, Ian, and the smell of turkey drifted in from the kitchen, our life was about to turn completely on its head.

Not long after the pumpkin pies were finished, Ian and I learned how unsafe my younger sister’s living situation had become. My sister is disabled and unable to work, and the family member she was completely dependent on was stealing her money and neglecting her needs. It was clear she needed to move out immediately — so she moved in with us that night.

[Continue reading at HelloGiggles.]

5 thoughts on “The importance of self-care when you’re a caregiver

  1. Well said! When I had my son, it wore me out. Between his needs and my own undiagnosed depression, I was a wreck. When he was three, I turned a lifelong love of photography into a very small business – for my sanity. Being a giving person is a good thing, but refilling one’s own tank is a must.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Yes, it’s definitely a must! I’ve been learning the last two years how much more challenging regular self-care can be when you’re responsible for caring for someone else, but how it becomes even more essential. I’m glad photography was sanity saving for you. I’m finding freelance writing to be helpful in the same way for me. 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

  2. A while back you had a quote in a post from Nadia Bolz-Weber, “Write from your scars, not your wounds.”
    Glad to get to read your words again as you’ve processed this challenging season of life.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Thank you for reminding me of that quote, Adam! I’d been feeling kind of bad for not keeping up the blog at all but because there was so much upheaval and it took a lot of processing I really wasn’t ready to write about anything. Thank you for being supportive.

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Excellent article/post. People hear the message about “self-care” but often think maybe they can be the exception. I’m glad you’re figuring out how to take care of yourself as well as your sister and husband. Also very cool to see that you’re managing to write and publish!


So, what do ya think?

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s